True Love Lessons: by Teresa Blackburn

Let me begin this with a Grey’s Anatomy quote: “When there is something you really want, fight for it, don’t ever give up no matter how hopeless it seems.  And when you’ve lost hope, ask yourself if in ten years from now, you’re gonna wish you gave it just one more shot.  Because the best things in life, they don’t come free.”

So many people have an unrealistic idea of love.  People expect to find the perfect one and that they will be in this little bubble and they will agree on everything and share thoughts and feelings and things will be fairytale perfect.  Sometimes the beginning of a relationship can look like this.  But then you begin to see the foundation of each individual.  Buttons get pressed, triggers pulled, and needs that are conflicting arise.  Then you say, “oh no, this isn’t the one and I need to end this.” Then you move on to another person.. but the same thing happens over and over.  It’s always easy in the beginning, then the lack of real true love shows itself.  People have relationships for many reasons: for fun, romantic love; to settle with someone because it’s easier than feeling something deep to avoid pain and suffering.  People freak out when there are too many issues that crop up that reflect issues within themselves that they have been stuffing or avoiding.  Oh no! I don’t want to have to deal with that it’s too scary or painful.  Fear continues to hold them back from making that deep connection.

But .. at the basis.. the root.. the ground level of all of this… you will feel the love of your soul.  The soul, knowing and recognizing true, unconditional love.  And that, my friends, would be the “one.”  That love that you can’t bury, shake off, ignore, deny, push away, or get rid of no matter what.  But you say, screw this! It’s too much, it’s too hard, it’s too much work, it’s too vulnerable, too scary.

So you will go settle on a new person or trying something else.. and you start fresh and new with a stranger and it’s all easy again.  Of course until you realize there is a lack of a deep connection, or maybe you become bored and things are stagnant.  It is good that you don’t argue at all right? It’s good that there is not real passion right? Intensity? No real fire is burning here.

God is constantly trying to get us to face our own shit that we need to work on to evolve our souls and to grow and expand.  When we face this and do the work, we get closer to our true selves.  When we can say, “hey look I know you and you know me, we have been through all of this, we have worked on ourselves and improved and realized and hurt and suffered! All our shit has been exposed! We know each other well… I still love you and you love me… there are no more cover ups, stuffing, avoiding, or secrets.”  When you can say this.. well you got it!!  Now work together on a mission to improve the lives of others.  It’s no longer about “I” “me” “I need” etc.. Live your lives side by side, keeping the ME and the YOU without the fears, the worries and the needs.. but still in this beautiful relationship where there is an US.  Value what you do for others and help to improve the collective!  What can you give together since all that work is now done.  Now you can just BE together.  Just love. True unconditional love.  Deep soul level love.  Love that rattles you to your core and shakes up all your shit!!  When all that dust settles that got stirred up, your eyes will connect, your souls will recognize..clearly.. It’s always been you.