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5 Requirements for Change

5 Requirements for Change: 

1. Willingness:

How willing are you, on a scale of 1-10, to feel uncomfortable feelings, to allow circumstances to adjust, to have people exit your life, to allow new people to enter, to expose your inner truths? 
This willingness must be a 10. This must happen first. 

2. Openness:

You must be open to receive, to receive in different ways, to be open to new ideas and let go of old limiting beliefs, to be open to feeling. Open, honest, truthful, and vulnerable. 

3. Drop Expectations:

Dropping expectations of how you think things “should “look. How they will happen/the specifics about the situation. Expectations of what your life plan “should “look like, of who your partner “should “ be, and how that all “should” arrive. 
These are illusions of control that create resistance and suffering. Also, making it impossible to be open and willing.

4. Learn to Be, instead of Do/Get/Earn:

Experiencing being, instead of constantly doing the next thing. Constant doing prevents/blocks receptivity and openness. It emphasizes control. There is a myth of the more you do the more you learn, thereby and titling you to deserve “good “things or getting what you desire.
This is a falsity.
Be still and know that more doing won’t earn you a partner, abundance, a spot in heaven, love, or worth.

5. Find God/Find self:

To find God, you must look within. Find your true self. Uncover it by pulling back the layers that are covering it up. If you can’t connect with your core true self, it will be hard to connect to and to feel God.
In order to do this, number 1 through four are required. 

These are 5 requirements for change to consider if you are feeling stuck!

If you need guidance, contact me for a session.

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Sweet Surrender

I’m in complete gratitude right now, and Joy. This is the first time since last summer that I have been able to do a full boxing high intensity workout without any repercussions.
Last summer I was at the Academy and I was doing a one on one session with Chris and I never felt so sick in my life. After class, I had to wait for an hour before I could even leave the building. I am grateful for my family at the Academy who helped me to get through it after that workout. After that, I continued to physically decline and was broken down to the point of not being able to even eat this past fall. I had to give up all of my workouts aside from some squats and some dips on a chair.
I have worked really hard to get back to where I’m at, but the thing that got me there was God. And my surrender to God completely.
Yes I took supplements, yes I did reevaluate my entire diet. But I spent hours per day meditating, praying, surrendering my past, my future, everything to God. Over and over.
It wasn’t just one time and a miracle happened. I continued to surrender over and over. Today I listened to Iyanla Vanzant talk about surrender being the one most important thing you can do as a spiritual warrior… And it’s so true.
I wanted to cling so tightly to the things that I had, the lifestyle that I had. But I had to be willing to let it go completely. I had to be willing to accept where I was at. Period.
I had to let go of past trauma and fear. I had to open myself up in a different way. I had to let go of beliefs and illusions of control. I had to be completely uncomfortable… feel utterly miserable.
In the past two weeks I have reached another level of surrender. This quarantine has given me an opportunity to go way deeper than I ever thought I would go. To surrender more than I ever thought I would. And to change my entire DNA. My genetic make up. I have healed completely. Mind body and soul.
I’m so grateful to have been shown the way to complete and utter peace and freedom. Of course I’ll not take for granted anything in life. I will strive to always be flexible, be aware, and practice surrender, the art of surrender, every day. Whether that has to do with relationships or money or physical health or home life whatever the case.
This is not to say I will not have goals. Because the entire time that I was doing all of this healing I had a goal which was to be able to do exactly what I did today: full rounds of boxing with high intensity.. full force.. with out feeling one repercussion or symptom in my body!
I am in a state of bliss. I just cried tears of joy. I am so grateful for my connection with the Lord. Blessed Trinity. Sacred Heart of Jesus. I’m a fighter. And in order to win this battle I had to stop fighting… Completely surrender.. it is Your will not my will. But I can tell you what I want and I can tell you what I’m going to strive for. Our wills  happened to match up LOL.
I did three 21 day meditations with Oprah and Deepak Chopra, I did hundreds of rounds of tapping, I did centering prayer daily, I listened to Iyanla Vanzant for the past 46 days every day at 10 am and did the exercises she offered. I have done daily affirmations, brrain retraining, Reiki, probably more that I can’t think of right now.
I had no idea when the day would come, or the hour, that I would reach this place
that I am at today.
Many moments I cried and thought I was going to be permanently sick. I was too sick to do much of anything from October to February. I was already in quarantine. LOL. I would drive up and down the road some days and wish to just die.
Truth… I have suffered more this year, May ’19-May”20, more than I have suffered in most of my 41 years of living. Actually the past seven years has been pretty intense. All of the physical issues, super intense and “gut wrenching” relationship lessons that were harder than hell and literally contributed to my gut imbalance… and the loss of my mother, my best friend, my codependent life line..AND, I had just started a business while she was dying… striving for the past seven years to live that life purpose. I had to stop and cry several times while voice texting this. Because you know I don’t have a thumb to type it out right now, plus I’m still impatient LOL
I let go of my addiction to being sick.
I let go of the root causes of the addiction to being sick.
I let go of any need to be sick.
I let go of any expectation that sickness has to happen.
It was all tied to my childhood, mass amounts of physical medical traumas. Tied to my mom’s fear and worry, tied to PTSD from strep throat and pandas.
I have healed so much stuff… tears again here… And I don’t share a lot about these things because I share it was just a select few people and I don’t like to broadly and openly complain about things because I don’t want that type of energy back to me.
Do I still have work to do yes do I have to continue to surrender, yes… are there going to be challenging moments, yes… but they’re not going to be seen from the same viewpoint that they used to. These are new eyeballs… these are fresh perspectives…. I’ll strive to not worry again about what if I get sick. Because that worry is what created all this in the first place. I trust. I trust God. I trust myself. God lives within me. Holy Spirit guide me. I will be still and listen. I will let go. I will allow that unconditional love to flow. I am a Spiritual Warrior and I will battle not fight.
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Narcissist and Emotionally Wounded Love Addict

A Narcissist, a wounded love addict. THE JOKER & HARLEY QUINN: A Therapist’s view….Emotionally wounded and broken Harley  Quinn is vulnerable and desperate and is wide open to be swayed by any charm or what appears to be intense feelings of love since she longs for that. And the joker is a twisted, sadistic, manipulative, narcissist/ sociopath who can prey on the weak and then mold them into what he desires. But guess what folks.. that’s not love..But some people think it’s romantic and think that they are a love story. lol if you actually read the comic you will see the truth of it. And guess what, joker is not in love with her, his true love is unattainable…Batman. The epitome of using dark and turning it into the light.. But suffering, still suffering… and joker is attracted to what he cannot turn into a relief of pain. Batman stays in his pain. But still works for the good of humanity. Joker is obsessed with him , Harley is just his possession, ego boost, and  he’s already conquered that. But if he loses her who will he have?  And that’s weak.. true weakness .. it’s possible to see her kind show up in therapy but not stick to it.. but he never will.

The sociopaths, narcissist persons may show up but they’re never going to do the work. If the emotionally wounded broken ever decide to get out of their past patterns and jump out of a hamster wheel they could get help. Or die.. one or the other.. It’s kind of sad that people romanticize this relationship. But it just goes to show how many people out there are coming from an emotionally wounded place. So they can relate to this.. they think it’s normal they think this is what love is. They may never truly know what love really is because this is all they know ..this hamster wheel..this loop that they are in. They will just keep being miserable, or they’ll have some kind of breakthrough and understand that this is not real. I can help you to step off the hamster wheel, click here

I would say there’s hope for Harley but I’m not really sure. She seems to have went to the Darkside and is fully submerged  into it. She may just have to get killed over there LOL. Why did he go through great lengths to save her if he doesn’t really truly love her? Well because she’s his food. Fuel for the narcissist. If he doesn’t have something to feed on then what does he have? In the comic, she eventually stands up to him and leaves him and then had a romance with poison ivy lol. Onto the next toxic relationship!!!  batman had deep pain, watching his parents die. Tried to avenge their deaths… his love is in the pain. Which can be compared to the show Dexter. But that’s a whole different analysis.! Good day folks! click here for help with breaking the pattern of toxic relationships

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True Love Lessons

True Love Lessons: by Teresa Blackburn

Let me begin this with a Grey’s Anatomy quote: “When there is something you really want, fight for it, don’t ever give up no matter how hopeless it seems.  And when you’ve lost hope, ask yourself if in ten years from now, you’re gonna wish you gave it just one more shot.  Because the best things in life, they don’t come free.”

So many people have an unrealistic idea of love.  People expect to find the perfect one and that they will be in this little bubble and they will agree on everything and share thoughts and feelings and things will be fairytale perfect.  Sometimes the beginning of a relationship can look like this.  But then you begin to see the foundation of each individual.  Buttons get pressed, triggers pulled, and needs that are conflicting arise.  Then you say, “oh no, this isn’t the one and I need to end this.” Then you move on to another person.. but the same thing happens over and over.  It’s always easy in the beginning, then the lack of real true love shows itself.  People have relationships for many reasons: for fun, romantic love; to settle with someone because it’s easier than feeling something deep to avoid pain and suffering.  People freak out when there are too many issues that crop up that reflect issues within themselves that they have been stuffing or avoiding.  Oh no! I don’t want to have to deal with that it’s too scary or painful.  Fear continues to hold them back from making that deep connection.

But .. at the basis.. the root.. the ground level of all of this… you will feel the love of your soul.  The soul, knowing and recognizing true, unconditional love.  And that, my friends, would be the “one.”  That love that you can’t bury, shake off, ignore, deny, push away, or get rid of no matter what.  But you say, screw this! It’s too much, it’s too hard, it’s too much work, it’s too vulnerable, too scary.

So you will go settle on a new person or trying something else.. and you start fresh and new with a stranger and it’s all easy again.  Of course until you realize there is a lack of a deep connection, or maybe you become bored and things are stagnant.  It is good that you don’t argue at all right? It’s good that there is not real passion right? Intensity? No real fire is burning here.

God is constantly trying to get us to face our own shit that we need to work on to evolve our souls and to grow and expand.  When we face this and do the work, we get closer to our true selves.  When we can say, “hey look I know you and you know me, we have been through all of this, we have worked on ourselves and improved and realized and hurt and suffered! All our shit has been exposed! We know each other well… I still love you and you love me… there are no more cover ups, stuffing, avoiding, or secrets.”  When you can say this.. well you got it!!  Now work together on a mission to improve the lives of others.  It’s no longer about “I” “me” “I need” etc.. Live your lives side by side, keeping the ME and the YOU without the fears, the worries and the needs.. but still in this beautiful relationship where there is an US.  Value what you do for others and help to improve the collective!  What can you give together since all that work is now done.  Now you can just BE together.  Just love. True unconditional love.  Deep soul level love.  Love that rattles you to your core and shakes up all your shit!!  When all that dust settles that got stirred up, your eyes will connect, your souls will recognize..clearly.. It’s always been you.